Friday, May 18, 2018

Five Minute Friday -- Secret

Today is Five Minute Friday -- we write for five minutes using a one word prompt and then STOP and then link up here.  Go!

Back when I was in my 30's, I decided to seek counseling from a professional because of a "secret" in my life. I will never forget the therapist's words to me, "We don't keep secrets but secrets keep us." If that thought has popped into my head once in the last 20 years, it has popped into my head a bajillion times. The therapist shared with me how when we keep things bottled up inside, they cause all sorts of illnesses - physical, mental, emotional. This was not a secret about something I had done.

I probably will never share my secret on a page like this for all of the world to see but I have shared it in the appropriate places - places where I could receive the help I needed. I have shared it in other safe places among close friends who could also offer help and sympathy and hugs and sometimes even empathy.

Just writing about this secret makes me think of the scripture about the heavy burden -- Matthew 11:28 - Come to me all ye who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest . . .those words are so true. Rest and peace are often needed.

So are you struggling with a secret today? Is a secret keeping you?  Seek a trusted friend and talk. Seek out a good therapist and talk. Seek out Jesus.

p.s. - this part is being written after the five minute mark -- once again, I'm sure that my writing is off on some other tangent than what our wonderful folks at Five Minute Friday bargained far. I always seem to go in odd directions!!

Thursday, May 17, 2018

Mother's Day weekend 2018

I love reading everyone's posts about time with their mothers. Y'all - if your mama is still alive, pick up the phone and call her today. I know today is not Mother's Day - just do it anyway!

So our weekend was fairly low key.

We went to our supper club on Friday night and enjoyed wonderful food and even better conversation. I love how our conversation can flow from the building progress/capital campaign at church to our grandkids to bird dogs/and/or poodles with ailments all within a couple of hours.

On Saturday night, Mark took sister and me (yes - he took me . .  I wouldn't say, "Mark took I" - one of my pet peeves and so thankful for honors English way back in Ms. Studdard's class) -- oops! Sorry about chasing that rabbit. Back to the story . . .Mark took sister and me to a local Mexican restaurant for dinner - my choice. Good thing sister loves Mexican, too! I choose my favorite Mexican restaurants by the salsa and the margaritas and this one has yummy salsa and ice cold and tasty margaritas!)

This is the blurriest picture ever but as Mark was paying the bill, I noticed this sign behind the register. It says, "Person in charge" and under that is written "Jesus."  It was really Hay Soos but I was actually stopped dead in my tracks by the sign - Jesus is in charge!

My main Mother's Day gift was a pottery barn honey wicker ottoman to go with the two new pottery barn chairs we purchased (for our anniversary). We have four of these same chairs on our upstairs front porch and they are so comfortable. We use our screen porch much more often so we decided we needed comfortable chairs for that porch, too. We convinced ourselves to order one more chair -- did that today!! If you are interested in the chair, check it out here and the ottoman is here.

We gathered at a local Chinese restaurant on Sunday after church. Mr. Chen's was my mother-in-law's choice for lunch and she didn't want take outs . . . she wanted to go TO the restaurant.  Our sweet daughter wasn't with us this year because she was cooking lunch for her mother-in-law to be!

My handsome son was sitting by his grandmother.

Y'all - my mother-in-law is amazing. I don't tell her often enough. If I told you how old she is, you wouldn't believe me!!

Here she is between two of her four grandsons -- the youngest grandson on her left and the oldest grandson on her right. The youngest grandchild of all is a granddaughter and I thought she was in this picture to the left of Thomas but my eyes are getting old. Our daughter is the oldest grandchild -- by one minute!! There are two other grand boys who were hopefully with their mom!!

Speaking of grandchildren -- here is the sweet daughter-in-law who gave us our first grandchild. We love daughter-in-law and sweet grandbaby, too!! Tiny Tiger is so stinkin' cute! She is a typical two year old - in constant motion, laughing one minute and pitching a fit the next. We are all strong willed and she gets that equally from all sides of the family. She chomped down on some Chinese food (rice and chicken and even a piece of carrot from my plate). We love our family so much!!

Mark was a good husband and brother-in-law. Since Sister is staying with us through the wedding, he bought her a mother's day card and small gift, too! Wasn't that thoughtful??

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

A SPARKLY Hodgepodge

Hodgepodge Questions-Volume 352

I can't believe Joyce has asked questions for 352 blog posts - that is amazing. Way to go, Joyce!! Today is Wednesday of wedding week but I'm trying to do a few things to keep myself sane . . .and one of those things is blogging! Feel free to copy and paste the questions into your own blog and link up with Joyce. If you aren't a blogger and you want to answer the questions, please feel free to do so in the comment section of my facebook page.

1. What would you say is your biggest day to day challenge?
I have way too many answers for this one question. Here are just two answers - from one end of the spectrum to the other --  I am challenged each and every day to live like Jesus. I fail way too often. I am challenged each and every day to make wise food choices and to make time for some exercise.

2. May 16th is National Biographers Day. What's a biography you really enjoyed reading? Is this a genre you read regularly?
I'm not sure that enjoy is the correct word but I remember reading Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl. As I was reflecting about what books I've read (that means I was googling biographies - actually I googled 100 best biographies), I realized that I haven't read that many biographies. I loved the books by Corrie Ten Boom, but she wrote those herself with the assistance of someone else. I also loved The Boys in the Boat but I'm not sure that really falls into biography.

3. How important is keeping a clean house? Do you need to de-clutter your life?
I really love a clean house and I am VERY BLESSED to have a housekeeper who comes once a week to help out. I'm not sure that I could host the young professionals group every week without her assistance. After the wedding, I have a list (in my head) of all the spaces that I want to de-clutter (a couple of closets and a few cabinets)

4. You're the 8th dwarf. What's your name? Do I get to pick?? Bubbly? Sparkly? Sniffy? I really want to google "seven dwarf named sparkly but I am so afraid of what that would unleash!!

5. What's surprised you the most about your life or life in general?
I never dreamed in a million years that I would be married to such a wonderful man - 34 years this Saturday.
I never dreamed in a million years that I would live in such a beautiful home. I never dreamed in a million years that I would GET to go to work each and every day to a job that I LOVE. I never dreamed in a million years that I would teach a large adult Sunday School class for 26 years and counting This list could go on and on because when I stop to think about it, I feel so very blessed. I love a God who loves me back. I have people whom I love who love me back.

On a funnier note, speaking of life in general, I'm surprised that we are not driving the air cars like George Jetson drove in the cartoon.

6. Insert your own random thought here.
This was my view on Monday morning around 5:20 a.m. while I was taking a short walk. It was so lovely. This is about a block from my house.

Monday, May 14, 2018

Sunday in the South Including a Kitchen Shower

We have had such fun at the showers for our daughter and future son-in-law! It never ceases to amaze me at the generosity and goodness of people!

So last Sunday - not yesterday but a week ago - my sister and I drove to the town where my daughter lives and we attended worship with her. My future son-in-law plays in the orchestra so it was special to see him play that day. You can't really see him but he is a trumpet player!

After lunch, our daughter's future father-in-law treated us to lunch at a local BBQ restaurant. I was excited about the size of the diet coke (even though I'm a diet pepsi drinker) - the ball jar was huge!

My future son-in-law was excited that this country music star was also eating lunch at Country's BBQ restaurant.

This is Jamey Johnson . . .who sings . . .and who co-wrote Honky Tonk Badonkadonk. Wonder what he ordered?? I had BBQ chicken and it was quite tasty!!

My sister and I finally had a photo taken together. She does exist, y'all! I'm wearing the pink dress - just in case you wondered!

The shower was held in a really cute neighborhood very similar to the neighborhood where I live!

I love a beautiful silver service . . .and look at those lovely flowers. The home was lovely!

These are pimento cheese sandwiches . . .with olives chopped up in with the pimento cheese - yummy!!

They served the old fashioned punch that I remember from my childhood - green (lime) sherbet with gingerale poured over the top - oh so good!

Laura was showered with lovely gifts.

We both wore pink!! I had on really tall wedges (for me) and I'm still so much shorter!

Laura and the hostesses

Y'all - my baby girl is getting married this coming Saturday - I just can't believe it!!

Friday, May 11, 2018

Crawfish Boil

One of the beauties of living in the south is being able to entertain friends and neighbors "in the yard." Some of the best parties happen outside -- from tailgates at football games in the fall all the way to fish fries and on to crawfish boils!

Our son and lovely daughter-in-law host a crawfish boil every year and they have been so gracious to include us"old farts" by inviting us to the party.

Do you know what a crawfish is? Some people say "crayfish" - that is with a long A sound. Some people call them mudbugs (that sounds gross to me). Some people call them crawdads. I'm sure the list could go on but this is what they are . . freshwater crustaceans -- they look like a giant bug (hence the name mudbug) or if you want to be more refined -- they look like tiny lobsters.

There were margaritas and a keg of high gravity beer. There was cornhole and a kiddie slide. There was a tent over the back yard. There was a GIANT pot. There were desserts galore. There was pimento cheese (another southern favorite) as an appetizer. The kids ate mac and cheese (I snitched a bite to put out the fire in my mouth) and chicken fingers. There was corn on the cob and new potatoes . . .my son even threw a few shrimp into that pot for his dear old mama!!

There was even a tiny grandbaby girl and her pops!

When everything is cooked, it is poured out onto tables and everyone
stands around the table and eats (or you can do like I did and make a
plate and sit down!!)

There was a LOT of food!!

Lots of fun was had by all!

If you are a regular blog reader, stay tune over the next couple of weeks - I've been contacted about hosting a give away!!!

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Here are the questions to this week's Wednesday Hodgepodge. Answer on your own blog then visit Joyce to link up . . .or feel free to answer in the comments or on facebook!! 

From this Side of the Pond

1. What are your ingredients for a perfect Saturday?
Sunshine, temp of 78-82, blue sky, lounge chair with feet propped up soaking up the sun! Does this happen often for me? NOPE, it does not.

2. What skill do you wish more people took the time to learn?
Good manners!!!

3. What's something you ate as a child you can't stand now as an adult?

That is an excellent question. I may have to get back with you on that in a few days. I've been thinking about it and despise is too strong a word but I used to love these little frozen tins of spaghetti that my mom bought when I was a kid. I think they were made by Swanson?? They were about the size of a chicken pot pie. I bought one a few years ago and it was not nearly as good as I remember. Key word - I bought ONE! I just googled it so I could show you a picture - they must not make them anymore!

4. Something parenting has taught you? If you're not a parent tell us one important lesson you learned from your own parents.

True story -- I prayed for patience 32 years ago. A couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant with twins. Moral of the story - don't pray for patience! hahaha!! I'm still not the most patient person in the world but I am so much more patient than I was 32 years ago so I guess parenting has taught that to me. Also, don't expect things to go the way you plan for them to go . . .often, plans get changed when a family is involved.

5. Share a favorite quote or saying about mothers or motherhood.

When God Created Mothers by Erma Bombeck
“When God Created Mothers"

When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of "overtime" when the angel appeared and said. "You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one."

And God said, "Have you read the specs on this order?" She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts...all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands."

The angel shook her head slowly and said. "Six pairs of hands.... no way."

It's not the hands that are causing me problems," God remarked, "it's the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have."

That's on the standard model?" asked the angel. God nodded.

One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, 'What are you kids doing in there?' when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn't but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. 'I understand and I love you' without so much as uttering a word."

God," said the angel touching his sleeve gently, "Get some rest tomorrow...."

I can't," said God, "I'm so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick...can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger...and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower."

The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. "It's too soft," she sighed.

But tough!" said God excitedly. "You can imagine what this mother can do or endure."

Can it think?"

Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise," said the Creator.

Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek.

There's a leak," she pronounced. "I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model."

It's not a leak," said the Lord, "It's a tear."

What's it for?"

It's for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride."

You are a genius, " said the angel.

Somberly, God said, "I didn't put it there.” 

These sweet babies made me a mother 31.5 years ago!

6. Insert your own random thought here.

 Our daughter gets married in one week and three days -- May 19!! EEK!!

She will be a married woman in just a few days and this sweet grandbaby of ours (niece of the bride) is hopefully going to be a flower girl!!

Thursday, May 3, 2018

Thankful Thursday

I'm thankful for several things on this Thursday so I thought I would post just a few.

1. I'm thankful for the awesome sunrise this morning. Was it beautiful where you live? Those little "bumps" are the houses across the park from my house.

2. I'm thankful for this article/blog post written by Beth Moore. I'm not a preacher but I've been teaching a large adult Sunday School class for almost 30 years and the members are both women AND men! Check out Beth's words here.

3. I'm thankful for sisters - one is staying with us for a month - from the time of her class reunion through the wedding. We (all three sisters) were together twice in the last couple of weeks. We forgot to take a picture!!

4. I'm thankful for my job. Really! I get to work in a place where I feel valued and loved and where I feel like every once in a while, I get to make a difference.

5. I'm thankful that our daughter has found the right man for her - and I'm thankful that the wedding is in a couple of weeks. Along that same line, I'm thankful for all the love that has been shown to her via showers and teas and sweet notes on the RSVP cards. I'm thankful that her new in-laws to be love her!

6. I was going to stop at five things but decided to add one more. I'm thankful that I get to have lunch tomorrow with three of my really great friends. I'm thankful for each of these women. We've been going to lunch together once a month for several years now. We raised our children together. We go to church together. We love each other.

For what are you thankful on this Thursday?